Jennifer Lopez is sharing new details about life as Mrs. Affleck.
Including how they officially got back in touch, his resurrected nickname for her, taking his name after their summer weddings and how they’re going about blending their families.
“People are still going to call me Jennifer Lopez”
It’s confirmed that shortly after she called off her engagement to Alex Rodriguez in April 2021, Affleck popped into her inbox. The Tender Bar actor, whom she was engaged to nearly 20 years before, emailed her to tell her that a magazine had asked him for a comment about her for a profile — and that gave a glowing one. Lopez and Affleck, who had recently split from Ana de Armas, started regular correspondence. Soon, they started making making secret visits to one another’s homes. And he was calling her by the nickname he gave her years ago: “Little” — a nod to the fact that, at 6-foot-4, he’s a foot taller than the powerhouse performer.
“Obviously we weren’t trying to go out in public,” she said of rebooting their love story. “But I never shied away from the fact that for me, I always felt like there was a real love there, a true love there,” whom she split from in 2004 after almost marrying. “People in my life know that he was a very, very special person in my life. When we reconnected, those feelings for me were still very real.”
That’s not to say that rekindling love with an ex works for all, added Lopez.
“I don’t know that I recommend this for everybody. Sometimes you outgrow each other, or you just grow differently,” she said. However, for them, “We lost each other and found each other. Not to discredit anything in between that happened, because all those things were real too. All we’ve ever wanted was to kind of come to a place of peace in our lives where we really felt that type of love that you feel when you’re very young and wonder if you can have that again… You go through all these relationships, and you’re searching and you’re connecting and you’re disconnecting with people, and you’re like, God, is this just what life is? Like a carousel, roller coaster, carnival ride? And then it settles.”
Between their first and second turns together, Lopez did a lot of work on herself. A key component was learning and practicing self-love. “You turn yourself into a pretzel for people and think that that’s a noble thing, to put yourself second,” she said. “And it’s not.” She also looked at bigger picture: “‘Why am I never happy?'” she said she asked herself. “I really felt that way for a long time…” She said she needed to “figure me out” so that she could be the best mother to her now-14-year-old twins with Marc Anthony. “It took years and years to really put the pieces together…”
Affleck told the outlet that the draw for him was that Lopez hadn’t changed in the most important way — in her heart.
“There is something innately, magically kind and good and full of love at the heart of who Jennifer is,” Affleck said. “That’s exactly the person I remember from 20 years ago. Maybe she sees all the changes she’s made, whereas when I see her, mostly I just see someone who has retained, against the odds, the thing about her that always made her the most incredible to me: a heart that seems boundless with love. She is my idea of the kind of person I want to be.”
The Bronx-born superstar even talked a little about life beyond the walls at Chez Affleck-Lopez in their home base of Los Angeles — and the efforts they’ve made to blend their families. She called Jennifer Garner, the mom of Affleck’s three children, “an amazing co-parent, and they work really well together.”
But rest assured this is a great time for her — and she’s riding this wave of happiness professionally and personally. In the coming months, she’ll appear in the films Shotgun Wedding and The Mother. She’s also crafting a new album which she seems most excited about.
